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Is it just me or is the oldest child the most under appreciated member of the family. At least in my family it is. I’m 15 years old and in 11th grade, I’m supposed to be in 10th but I’m homeschooled. Im planning on graduating early and in 1.5 school years i have taken 4 college courses, those are chemistry history English and Spanish. I follow all my parents rules and only play for 3 hours a week. I’m not allowed to have a girlfriend, and i have had a crush on my friend for 3 years now (she doesn’t know). My little brother is 12 years younger than me. I help with chores, i help take care of my brother. I try my best to get straight A’s in school. Yet what i do is still not enough for my parents… especially my mom. I’m doing all of this, i follow all their rules but my mom seems to find the most trivial of things to ruin my day. The does this day by day, week by week, month by month

Sorry about this rant… i know it’s not the most positive thing in the world but i just needed to get this off my chest… thx for reading

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One piece of advice that I wish somebody had given me when I was your age: do whatever you want. as long as you aren’t committing felonies, you can’t even really get in any trouble.

but you can’t learn from your mistakes unless you make them. Follow your heart even if it gets you in trouble with your lame ass parents.

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Coming from a fellow oldest child: Sometimes you just have to deal with it. Unless you have abusive parents (which I sure hope you don't and doubt that you do) she loves you and wants the best for you. You may not see it that way at this time, but it's true. You sound like you're making good choices in life. Keep going strong.

Edit: Btw I am not an old guy trying to give kids advice I’m a teenager just like you

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QB283 said:

Coming from a fellow oldest child: Sometimes you just have to deal with it. Unless you have abusive parents (which I sure hope you don't and doubt that you do) she loves you and wants the best for you. You may not see it that way at this time, but it's true. You sound like you're making good choices in life. Keep going strong.

Edit: Btw I am not an old guy trying to give kids advice I’m a teenager just like you

I know she does, its just nice to get some recognition, I believe that anyone no matter how small the deed should be appreciated… but this is what she told me “anything you do to “help”(air quotes) isnt helping, its called doing your part in the household, so dont be expecting any ’thank yous’… but whenever she does anything, as little as may be, she needs to hear a “thank you” or else she’ll call me “ungrateful “ im not making any of this stuff up… i know she loves me but its just hard to feel it… i know what u guys r gonna say that its just tough love… but tough love is not what i need, and i know shes capable of showing actual love, its prolly cuz my younger brother gets all of it- im not jealous i know he needs it way more than i do, but i just wanna feel a little but of it

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It sounds like you are a great young man. Keep up the good work. I'm happy to pat you on the back if your moms won't. Perhaps your mom has a bunch of stuff on her mind that you don't know about or has her own problems she's dealing with that you don't know either. Not an excuse for treating you poorly though.

I tend to agree with your mom that all family members need to help around the house. I vacuumed the house yesterday, the whole damn thing, I didn't expect or want a thank you (and I didn't get one from my wife) but I felt good because I was cleaning up our house. On the other hand, when my wife empties the dishwasher, I also don't thank her.